Who is in your Inner Circle?

In building our Life’s Work, we all need allies. And we need to surround ourselves most closely with people who are going to support and sustain us throughout our lives.

Let’s call those people, our “Inner Circle.”

Who is in your Inner Circle? Are they people who belittle you, make fun of you, are filled with fear, cynicism, and intolerance?

Or are they people who are grounded, compassionate, energetic, and who want to see you succeed?

Your ability to build a positive life for yourself, and to accomplish your greatest dreams, may hinge on who you allow into your Inner Circle.

Here are tips for creating the best Inner Circle for yourself:

1) Put people in your Inner Circle who are going to make you be the best version of yourself.

It is very hard to be alive in this era. There are too many distractions, too much maya, too much illusion, too many incentives that push people to be lazy, deceitful, greedy and unkind.

Because we live in conditions that push us to act in mediocre ways, we need to surround ourselves with people who can push us to be the best versions of ourselves. We need people who will hold us accountable when we haven’t done the right thing, or when we are not being good to ourselves.

Surround yourself with people who are not only kind, but also supportive; strong, but also, with a sense of patience and zen to handle the waves of suffering we are all exposed to. If you look in a broken mirror, you will only see cracked parts of yourself, and never in a good way.

Surrounding yourself with good people is like surrounding yourself with a mirror that never breaks, and that can expose your best and most impressive qualities.

2) Put people in your Inner Circle who will push you to your limits, and beyond. You need people in your life who are going to make you confront your fears, and to go beyond them. You need people who are going to hold your hand as you take a giant plunge into the unknown. Don’t put people in your life who will tell you it’s ok to settle for mediocrity.

3) Put people in your Inner Circle who will be there for you like a mighty rock. Friendships today are fleeting, based on common interest, but never trust or fidelity. Put people in your Inner Circle who you absolutely know will be there for you if you need them, and for whom you will be there should they need you. This type of fidelity must be mutual and symbiotic.

Be like a shelter to the other; in the chaos to come, we will need such things.

4) Put people in your Inner Circle who will make you dream your most powerful dream. We are all here at this time for a reason. We are here because we are the best hope for humanity. This is the era of great change, and humanity’s survival is not at all assured. Advanced life may be extinct in 100 years.

We were born at this time because we are the best dreamers of our species — the ones who can imagine a future where humanity has emerged from these dark times in a better place: a Golden Age.

Surround yourself with people who are going to push you to dream your most powerful dream. Dream the best dream for yourself, what it is you are here to do. Then think about it, and dream an even more powerful version of that. Do that until you hold in your head a dream of tremendous power.

Whatever it is you dream, you should be surrounded by people who are going to support your dreams however they can, and who will be there for you to accomplish those dreams.