Keeping good company

One of the best things we can do for ourselves is to keep good company. Our emotional lives very often depend on who we let into our lives. Here are some tips to think about in terms of the company you keep:

1. Listen to yourself if you feel drained. If you feel drained after being with someone or in a certain situation, it’s not healthy for you. Sometimes people ask me what it means to feel drained. All I can say is that you will know. You will feel tired, irritable, and as if someone took your energy away from you. It’s an unmistakable feeling.

If you feel drained, take a break and do something else and give yourself time to restore and recover. And in the meantime, understand that whatever was draining you could be a potentially bad influence.

2. Find those people who bring out the best in you. Surround yourself with people who bring out your best qualities. That way, you can be your best self in the company of others.

At the same time, make a promise to act as a positive force for those you associate with as well. That way, you can bring out the best in others, even as you let others bring out the best in you.

3. Let people go if it’s time to walk a different path. One of the hardest parts about life is learning to let go of other people who may be walking a different path than you. You’ll know when it’s time to do that. Someone who was once a positive force becomes a negative force. You feel drained/obligated/angry/upset when you have to see a certain person. It can be tough to let someone go if there’s been a lot of personal history, but listen to your emotions if they are telling you it’s time to go a different way.

4. You are your friends. You are the company you keep. When you associate with positive people, you become positive. When you associate with people who are filled with trust and joy, that will rub off on you as well. If you are trying to break a bad habit, then you may need to spend time with people who don’t engage in that habit or live life differently.

Remember that who you associate with is a choice, and those choices will determine a lot about you and your life. Choose wisely!